Tonight H told me that he will be refiling for d come Tuesday. Will get an attorney and get what he wants out of the d...he did not like our previous d so now he will come get exactly what he wants financially...maybe even take the boys half the year.
His intent was to d then continue seeing the mc and if it worked out we could remarry.
I said well I fail to see how I would become high priority with you when we are dating if you were dating while we were married. He verified that if he wanted to date now that we were separated and if we continue to be separated he would continue to date...being married would not stop him.
So now he goes through with the d. It's over. There is no talking to him now.
He said that because of the move I made this week by dismissing the d it just indicates to him that I have not changed...that it continues to be all about what I want. That I gave him no chance to do what he wanted on Friday...get a d. I said well I'm sorry you feel that way...I was only trying to make right what I did wrong by dismissing. I filed I dismissed my suit. He said well if you'd a let us get d we could have continued to see each other afterwards but not now.
So I'm going to get d now but it will be at h's hand not mine. I told him well now the world can see who the bad guy really is...since you will be putting the d through, it will you that divorced us.
He said why do you say us? I said the boys are in this too. He said this d has nothing to do with them. I said it does cause it introduces them to the possibility of another father. he said I'll always be their father I said yes but they can make the choice whether they want to be with you or not. He said no they can't.
Well it looks like my situation is no longer piecing. He's more sure of getting a d now than he's ever been. Actually he said that this past month he's been sure that is what he wants.
I'm so sad to think that all this work of the past month was just him going to get a d. There was never any chance of anything else.
