So glad you started the next community thread. It's fitting, since you're the dating maven here.
Sigh. I don't think you're being picky and neither you nor GG should feel the need to settle. But wait. Are we talking simple dating or long term relationships?
Right after my divorce was final, I had a session with my psychic/medium friend for a little nudge. He told me that trying to save my marriage for so long kind of pulled me a little off kilter and I got used to accepting the crumbs from my XH's table and kind of taking a hit in the self esteem department. Basically, I moved my bar by tolerating behavior that I wouldn't have done before I got married. It took me a really long time to accept that statement for the truth that it was. He suggested when I date, to practice noticing red flags and to stop giving others that I don't even know the benefit of the doubt. In fact, he told me to practice dumping guys. (I went back and retread this stuff a few weeks ago and it kind of shocked me.)
So I'm going to pass this your way.
Go ahead and be picky past that second date. You're not crazy and you've definitely shown that you are open to possibilities. Why feel bad about it?
I'm kind of laughing at the names of your dates this week. Let's just say I'm really partial to 2 of those names. REALLy partial.
What I miss is sleeping with a guy who is my best friend. I'll know that guy when he walks in my path. And so will you and GG. Maybe we're just looking too hard? Trying too hard? Maybe we subconsciously want the peg to be round so it can go in the round hole?
All I know here is I kinda don't want to date right now. D16 starts cheer and the first football game is next Thursday. D19 started volleyball season and I'm getting back into the swing of things there. I'm starting my side job this week, and I just don't want to put any more effort outside of what I have and love. If a special person comes along, I'll gladly make the room for him. But I'll leave that up to the guy upstairs to arrange.
BA, you're a really good guy. You shouldn't have to settle. Period. GG, you either.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
