I am so sorry. I know how hurtful this is for you.
First of all, there is always hope. You have to decide if you are up to taking this journey.
I will tell you that it is hard. But, it is also one of the most rewarding things you will ever do if you are willing to do the work.
Here's the thing. Dbing is really about saving you and sometimes it saves marriages. I believe it is the best shot at doing that.
I know the thought of the ow is tough. But if you give her headspace, she gets the power. Take the power back.
So, when you feel up to it, start to think about some things that you would like to change about you, for you. Think about some things you always wanted to do or try.
Your h is on his own journey and it is best for you to let him walk it.
And you walk yours. So, let's not worry about her right now.
He has not spoken about divorce. That is a good thing.
Can you think of some things that he has expressed about his unhappiness in the marriage? Look at them and see which ones has merit.
When you see him, show him someone positive. Keep your interactions brief and upbeat.
