This is all sooo extremely hard. His son is grown and shared with me that today after our mediation he made a suicide threat. He told the OW he took a whole bottle of pills and really didnt. I am so worried but he obviously is NOT happy with her( which is part of the process too the more I read) . But we (my son and him) are scared to death that he will follow through one day and not make it out of this MLC!! I understand he is seeking attention, and depressed of course. Right now it seems to be related to the relationship with the OW and not from me because so far the last few weeks I have done nothing that I am aware of to set him off but...any suggestions or help would be appreciated. He told me tonight after calling our daughter that he wanted me to know that he was sorry for all the hurt and pain he caused me if something where to happen to him that he just didnt feel right. ??? I said stop apologizing its ok. He said "I know that my words dont mean that much"- I bit my toungue when I wanted to say no your actions mean more -" But I had to say them in case something where to happen to me. " I want so bad to reach out to him and ask if he is ok and just check up on him... but I dont know if I am supposed to or should or will be the correct thing to do when someone is in this deep of a situation and threatening suicide. I know his son said he was talking to the OW later this evening like things were ok so I didnt want to interfere on that and be the cause of them to have issues... because i know he has to learn that mistake on his own and not come back out of guilt or fear. I just feel alone right now. I was trying to take care of myself when he called to talk to our daughter and all this was brought to light. I just hope my prayers are heard and he is ok and in gods hands tonight.
ME: 28yo SO:47yo D:4yo Split:6/7/13 OW:6/21/13 R attempts:7/4/13;8/14/13
His son is grown and shared with me that today after our mediation he made a suicide threat. He told the OW he took a whole bottle of pills and really didnt. I am so worried but he obviously is NOT happy with her( which is part of the process too the more I read) . But we (my son and him) are scared to death that he will follow through one day and not make it out of this MLC!! I understand he is seeking attention, and depressed of course. Right now it seems to be related to the relationship with the OW and not from me because so far the last few weeks I have done nothing that I am aware of to set him off but...any suggestions or help would be appreciated. He told me tonight after calling our daughter that he wanted me to know that he was sorry for all the hurt and pain he caused me if something where to happen to him that he just didnt feel right. ??? I said stop apologizing its ok. He said "I know that my words dont mean that much"- I bit my toungue when I wanted to say no your actions mean more -" But I had to say them in case something where to happen to me. " I want so bad to reach out to him and ask if he is ok and just check up on him... but I dont know if I am supposed to or should or will be the correct thing to do when someone is in this deep of a situation and threatening suicide. I know his son said he was talking to the OW later this evening like things were ok so I didnt want to interfere on that and be the cause of them to have issues... because i know he has to learn that mistake on his own and not come back out of guilt or fear. I just feel alone right now. I was trying to take care of myself when he called to talk to our daughter and all this was brought to light. I just hope my prayers are heard and he is ok and in gods hands tonight.
