BA, You might as well have written my dating story. I don't think we're being picky, just "specific" and what's wrong with that? At this stage of our lives we know ourselves well and what we want in a partner/relationship. Why would we settle?
I've gone through the same challenges as you; just a gender reversal. What I always say is that I don't expect anyone to be something I'm not. You are attracted to what you are attracted to and why is that shallow? Like you, I'm really fit (do ALL the conditioning for my football players), love all sports and play golf every chance I get. The last thing that would work is a Santa Claus who sits on the couch. And, I think it's only reasonable we need to be physically attracted to our partner; whatever that means to each of us.
Dating gets exhausting and sometimes it's easy to think there's something wrong with us, or we're being too picky. I don't think so and I don't think we own that. We just sit back and enjoy life and see who shows up. Besides, there seems to be no shortage of women interested in you!
As for me, I've decided to be 'on the bench' as my good friend (now married) once said. It was a fun summer, but I need some down time. My latest was fun, but can't be what I need. I'm looking for my equal, not someone I potentially would need to take care of.
Final thoughts: Everything happens as it should in due time. Patience is of the essence in this journey and there's no set time frame.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
