So it appears that our "Who's buying this round Part 5" thread has locked so I've started Part 6 with something that has been on my mind lately. Since my last relationship ended about 4 months ago, it seems I have been doing the dating merry-go-round with lots of first and second dates and even a couple of 3rd/4th dates before parting ways. Many of the women that I have dated have been very nice ladies but for one reason or another they were not a good fit, well except for one but someone else was a better fit for her. So lately I've started wondering if maybe I was being unrealistically picky.
I do have some very specific things I am looking for in a potential date but I don't know if they rise to the level of picky. Personality wise, I am attracted to women who are confident of themselves, have a positive perspective on life and are comfortable with themselves. I don't want them to be an alpha, but if they lack confidence or are pessimistic than it is an issue for me. Appearance wise, while a woman doesn't have to be drop dead gorgeous (it doesn't hurt but it's not a requirement) they do need to be somewhat attractive. I mean that often provides the initial interest and spark doesn't it? Plus I am a pretty fit guy and I am attracted to fit women. Does that make me shallow? I hope not.
So I don't think I am being picky, but because I am 0 for 2 in the long range life relationships, I think I am more adamant about not settling this time - and perhaps not settling is taking on the appearance of being picky. I would appreciate input from the board on this, especially since I have been out with about 10 different women over the last 4 months and only 1 has really hit the mark for me.
As for the latest in my dating world, I have a somewhat busy week ahead. Tomorrow I meeting Ingrid for the first time. From her pictures she hits the mark on the appearance checklist. Hopefully personality wise she hits the mark as well - she is a doctor so I am making somewhat of an assumption that she is confident of herself. She has kids that are about the same age as mine, a little younger but not much, which puts us in the same stage of life - although she is a few years younger than me. Thursday night I have a second date with Vicky. While date one did not strike a home run with me, it wasn't a bomb and I don't think you can always get a total feel for these things in one outing. Plus she seems to really like me. Friday night is another first date with Valerie - we have been trying to set this up for more than a week and finally have our schedules lined up. From her profile she seems very outgoing, which is a plus, she is cute and petite. I will spend the weekend recovering!
