my wife wants to separate according to her not divorce but with this other dude who is married with two children now possibly laid off of his job with a both work this may be her opportunity to still see him by getting her own apartment she states she get two apartments just waiting on the deposit from her and first months rentshe also brought to methat maybe I should move and I thought about it being that we have 3 children she's threatening separation filing papers to do placement for children which up roots the children from their stable home living to be coming bag kids living out of Luggage back and forth but if I move II'll just go stay with even my Mother or best friend and just come to visit the kids or take them out somewhere but they'll sleep at home as usual this is a very hard decision being that I'm not the one who decided that maybe I'll go looking for love from a married man when I'm married myself so that is my dilemma any recommendations from a veteran divorce busting person for me to work on my 180let her take care of all the billsand I'll just start saving my money and pay the little bill that I do have on my own I guess I really want my marriage to work but my wife pretty much states in some ways she hates me I have not cheated on her I do not cuss at her the only issues that I've had in the past is being somewhat selfish and having trust issues because of whatever never to the point of snapping out or leaving or wanting to get a divorce I truly marry this woman till death do us part she said she did too so what happened to the commitment for life for better for worse for richer or poor in sickness and in health for saking all others as long as we both shall live and what God has joined together let no one put asunderwhich means split apart not even me or her my pastor says let her leave don't leave my house friends of mine also are saying let her leave don't leave your house but really none of them have the experience as Michelle or the other vet divorce busters so their opinions might just be out of emotion and frustration because she has no right to do what she's been doing to me I don't deserve it I'm worth more than that and she just don't understand what she's giving up for nothing please help me understand or give advice regarding this situation because I need to make a decision on whether I'm going to tell her she can move since he already has apartments in line or I'll move so that hernia kids can stay at home so that we won't have to fight over placement which I don't understand since she's the one who wants to go out of the marriage when the marriage can be repaired be fixed and be as beautiful as it's ever been as long as she make the decision to fight with me instead she wants to have space to find out what she really wants and all that stuff to me this is just so stupid we have 10 years of marriage behind us we've been together for 14 years have 3 beautiful kids and you're willing to drop all that let all that go for nothing for a pipe dreamand a merry coward with two children who states he's getting a divorce too but he stated that over a year agowho in their right mind would settle for something like that
