We all get to that point in the sitch where we start to question whether going dark or DBing is the right thing to do. I wish I had the answer to that one! I've still got our sitch on my mind, but I try and put it to the back of my mind, unsuccessfully at times! I think about what H is up to less and less when he is not here. I don't think of him sat at his place on his own anymore watching TV and being miserable, lol. Well that was more wishful thinking! lol. Personally you've come this far and to stop going dark now may be a step backwards. I suppose going from going dark to DBing or following Sandi's rules may work, but still keep up the NC. I often wonder if this is making them pull away even more, but then the whole reason for detaching is for you and you alone. By being more independent and GALing, they will see the difference the next time you meet and they might think that now you are the spouse only a fool would leave. This is what we are aiming for Glad you had a good weekend and a great Father's day with your sons I know what you mean about your W not making plans about the hols, I've been trying to pin my H down to make plans about when I'm at college and my son isn't. It's been a nightmare so far! My son is a bit fed up about this as well, he said the other day that it was a lot easier when his dad was around and I had to agree with that. My son can't cope with changes in routine very well and at the mo everything is up in the air! My college timetable has already been changed twice and I don't know if my son's timetable is going to be change again or not! I've got the day off tomorrow and my son said "At least tomorrow is a normal day" lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
