Me 10 months on. Positve agenda.

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Trip went well. Just on a bit of a downhill on the rollercoaster at the moment, feeling quite mad and angry with the W. Just part of the process, I know.
Had a great party, no W talk which was good. But like a lot of other sitch's, it is so hard to see other couples (especially ones you know that have issues) together. Good to see and chat with a lot of people I haven't seen for a few years (due to being in the country) and how amazing it is to get back up to speed.
Father's Day, oldest son rang and wished for a good day. He is with girlfriend a few hours drive away, but had a card and pressie for me with the other son. My youngest son rang and we met up for a few hours. We chatted about lots of things, and even better, I got the impression that our relationship had moved up a step or two. He was simply a lot more attentive, talkative and interested. I told him that I will spend some time with him during the coming holidays, but also mentioned I am going away for a few days. He was a bit shocked about that, didn't ask with who, but it was discussed the location. I told him the main reason was because it is very hard to stay with the my mother for the entire holidays. He accepted that reason. He did mention that the W still hasn't told them what she is doing and he added she will probably leave it to the last minute again. So totally opposite of what she would normally have done. Previously she would have started counting done weeks before. I also got the feeling that the youngest son is starting to feel a bit annoyed about her actions/lack of actions. Mindreading I know, but still got that feeling. Just not going to focus on it.
The night before at the party, I found a possible job prospect for him, which really cheered him up. Have followed that through and he has now met the company and handed in his resume. Fingers crossed.
Also at the time of saying good bye, his exhaust on the car was hanging off, so we had to do quick repairs in the car park. What a fun way to spend Father's Day, I really enjoyed that.
The youngest son also gave me a guitar strap, with "Iron Maiden" on it. That is so cool, that he gave me something that is needed and also remembers my fav band.
At the finish my son did tell me that I was defriended by the people because of the tattoo picture. So at least I know the reason now. It doesn't change anything, I still feel if they had the decency they would speak to me.
My oldest son last night, texted and facebooked his 21st birthday he has organised in share with his friend. So booked flights to once again fly back to the city in November for that. That will probably be a hard one, as family/friends will be there, and it will be the first time literally since BD that we are together. Not going to let that ruin my son's night.
Still awaiting the reply from the solicitor, they were given two weeks to reply to me, so far 7 weeks is up. In a way I am anxious for it, another way I wonder why the hold up (then I start to mindread).
Only 15 days till my transfer request is advised. Also on another note, I spoke to another union rep and asked if they would be in the next meeting with the boss (if a meeting happens). I really feel I might have to have some backup, just in case.
Trying to be as positive as possible still.