Divorced-not done-But wondering ?

[JJAC2005]

L4MD
I hear you...and truly feel your pain! I am sorry that you are going thru this w/o as much as a smallest little contact now and then from your ex.
I see that there are a lot of things that DB refers to as trying as LRT and I am too much of a new-be in the ways of DBing, to accurately give you advice on what you could change or continue to try that might bring about some sort of interest or dialog.
I have heard a nice catch phrase a little bit ago...as I did it w/o knowing what I did, but I was/am disrupting the disruption.
I am doing this by not doing what the ex is really expecting me to be doing....as I had been dropping into contact every now and then with an email, or a short little text about every3-4 weeks....but I haven't done or made any attempts at contact for almost 7 weeks now.
I feel conflicted some days, but more often I have been feeling almost liberated from some of that attachment that went along with it.
I may not be correct on this, but your situation sounds more like MLC now than WAS...so you might want to do a bit more research in that area.
I have some of that going on, but still get the feeling that I am dealing mainly with a WAW situation.
So, if you are feeling already that you are the kind of wife only a fool would walk away from ...Id say you already have a one up on the OW...besides that, you said it yourself...you have a rich history and life together with your ex that she cant ever have those same life experiences...especially if they only get together a few times a month.
I know that the counseling/coaching isn't cheap, but after the first few sessions you get a direction and goals laid out enough to set it up as a tune up now and then for you as you need it.
How do I get to where I am better, and get her to notice...I'm not 100% sure on that yet....but I have work to do...I know that shes not going anywhere soon, and if I need to put it out there in a more direct way, I am not opposed to doing it...I mean at that pint you still have a 50/50 chance it working, and If it doesn't work at all, you still have planted some seeds to grow.