Lifestyle changes

[MrBond]

"There is so much in these posts that I disagree with."

That's fine. All we're showing you is the other POV. Getting advice from professionals, friends, etc. are fine. But here you have a body of people who have actually had to go through all this just like you have. We all have gone through the same emotions you have.

And even if you don't realize it, there is alot of anger, hurt and resentment that comes across in your posts and a certain degree of wanting to punish your W. You can disagree, as is your right.

I think we all see the same things we did, in you. Heck, I was in denial that I was "angry" and it was 25yrsmlc and Sandi who would keep telling me that I was. Then a switch went on and I understood what they were talking about. Once you understand all that, you'll be able to understand your W better and know how to handle things with her. And there are those other professionals I mentioned that you could check out. But no one is forcing you to believe anything. All we've been suggesting is that MAYBE your thinking isn't entirely correct and sometimes it takes an outside source to see it because you're too attached.

You can argue with us all you want, but it won't help your relationship with your W. And unfortunately your kids are the ones who are going to have to deal with the fallout. If you can't show forgiveness towards her, it'll be hard for your kids to do it themselves.

Good luck to you.