The MC just called said he give h a call. MC felt as though I should probably have talked to h face to face about it AFTER or BEFORE the counseling session. But the MC also said that he thought we were very clear yet by h's expression during the session he also felt like he was not making contact.
MC said the session was very one-sided. As usual I'm doing all the work while h remains THERE. MC said that the things I've seen in the past month are not effort on h's part...just merely for show. H is not going into to counseling with MC admitting his wrongs is only talking about what I've done.
Quote: let him do what he's gonna do
I told MC well at least now I know where I stand with h...if he chooses to file for d then there won't be any more uncertainty. MC said that is a good point.
Quote: maybe you didn't specifically tell him not to show up, but I mean who wouldn't figure that out?
Right! But h is grasping at straws to justify his position. Of course I should be at fault here....he then gets reason to d.
Quote: I don't think he was "playing" you this last month, you would have seen through it.
Gosh I hope so. I'd hate to think my h was using me this whole time. When I reminded the MC about the efforts h had made...MC said WHAT EFFORT? H has really made no effort to find out how to be a better h or father. It's been all about him being a victim. I'm sure being a victim feels lots better than the realization that you've got to change! MC said h doesn't want to face that decision the one to change.
Quote: Let the storm pass, ITS NOT YOUR FAULT, just keep doing what you've been, and maybe back off of him a little until he gives you a sign he's settled down.
I plan to make no contact this weekend. He'll attempt to get a hold of me but I won't answer. I'll maybe leave him a message to say if he wants to talk he can set up a counseling session and we can meet there. I will not meet him alone!
to you too!
