Window of opportunity or just a mirage

[2ndtimearoundCA]

I spent much of last night re-reading DR. There is a lot of great stuff in there that I am applying behind the scenes. My present situation mostly involves the LRT, the trail and error process, and assessing my results. Except when w and I met up 3 weeks ago in person, all of our interactions have been via text message. I am going to transcribe below our interactions Saturday through yesterday. I probably pursued too much, and I will now back off a bit.

Beginning Saturday morning:

Her: Good morning. Wanted to call u last night but very late. Meltdown from work overload. Needed to talk to someone who has been there with me & understands how to calm me down...

Me (half hour later): sorry to hear about your work (her name), Up in the cabin with kids, their friends, and (my parents names)) ... Kinda crazy. Quite a contrast from when you and I would come up here to your happy place. Let me know if you need to talk.. I can try and find a place where I have reception. Hang in there.

Me (late afternoon): you doing ok?

Her (half hour later): after a few drinks... much better...

Me (1.5 hours later): right there with you... Enjoy

Me (Sunday Afternoon): floated the river today. Good times. Good memories...

Me (Monday . Lunchtime): Touring (my old college town)

The first time w and I went to vacation home we stopped for lunch in my old college town. The place I wanted to take her to lunch was closed and we spent some time driving around looking for another place to eat. While doing this, I pointed out different places I used to go when in college. Since then she always teased me when we stopped their about giving her a tour rather than feeding her when she was hungry.

Her (two minutes later): my favorite city tour. Lol

Me (3 pm Monday): Home now. We should get together when you are in town.

We live in the same area, but her work takes her out of town a lot. We were supposed to get together last week (she pursued) but the timing and her work got in the way. One of the positive changes I am looking for is to spend more time with her in person.

It is difficult for me to asses positives and negatives and make adjustments from just my text messages. Since she wasn't too responsive after her initial message Saturday morning, I probably was too available to her (I pursued too much). In the past I had made a rule not to text her unless she texted me first, but that didn't necessarily seem to help. I am trying to think of some kind of 180 I can do that will lead to more contact from her, but I am at a loss here.

I won't contact her again until I hear from her.