Hi Ruby, I’m happy that you are having a good weekend. Good job leaving him with the picture of you in that dress. I was reading your recent updates and thought that you are following the suggestion I’ve read about in one of the electronic books I bought last year. There was a story about wife leaving her husband for another man. The author suggested to this men to have regular coffee dates with his wife and don’t mention OM at all, just be friendly and confident. The wife went through a few OMs during that time and all of them didn’t like the fact that she was still meeting and talking with her H, so they were all jealous and put lots of pressure on her. At the same time she could talk about anything with her H and he accepted her the way she was. So, the author says that they eventually reconciled. I just could not help but to see the parallel here with your story.
That's an awesome story Seems to be consistent with the advice the DB coaches usually offer people which is to try and establish a friendship with the WAS. Some around here say to be like a "friendly neighbor". IE, make friendly conversation with the WAS, but no pressure as far as R talks and such. That's what I've been striving for with my W, I don't think she'll ever change her mind about the M but being on good terms makes coparenting so much easier.
Seems to be consistent with the advice the DB coaches usually offer people which is to try and establish a friendship with the WAS. Some around here say to be like a "friendly neighbor". IE, make friendly conversation with the WAS, but no pressure as far as R talks and such. That's what I've been striving for with my W, I don't think she'll ever change her mind about the M but being on good terms makes coparenting so much easier.
