Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part V)

[AnotherStander]

So it's been almost a year since W moved out. Originally she told me she signed a 2 year lease. Yesterday I took D16 to do some shopping and she mentioned that W's lease is up in a few months. I told her I thought her mom had signed a 2 year lease and she said that she originally did, but later changed it. I asked her if W was planning on buying a house after the lease is up and she said yes. Minor mind-reading ahead- this is probably why W is pushing forward with the D, she needs the money for the new house purchase (I had already agreed to take out a loan to compensate her for half of our house which is currrently paid for).

Virginia, thanks I sent you an email to find out what you removed, I'm not sure what it was and I tend to repost the same quotes now and then, so I just want to find out so I know not to post it again in the future.

Turtle and willbwell, thank you I was so scared and desperate when I came here. I can't believe it's been barely a year, it feels like 10 years of growth have happened since then. I sure have a new appreciation for what people go through in sitches like this. I never really gave it much thought when I found out people were going through divorces before, I never would have dreamt it could affect someone so profoundly. If ever again someone I know goes through this I will make every effort to help them however I can.