Lets take a look at how we could have RELIEVED PRESSURE a little better, because we know GOOD things happen when we do that..
Quote: ..but at least he got out of the car and came into the library. Thats a positive. He sat over reading a magazine while I got the presentation done.
Perfect, no problems there, he's reading you're presenting everything is just fine. Imagine if you had simply just kept presenting RATHER THAN..
Quote: I went at one point to ask how he was cause he looked out of sorts..he says aren't you suppose to be doing the presentation? Oh, I said yeah but are you ok. He says yeah why..oh you seem out of sorts..
Cindy, he says he's fine, so leave him be, why agitate him if you SENSE he's standoffish? If you had to go over and check up on him, when he told you he was fine just say.."OK, great, this won't take much longer and we'll be outta here, thanks for being here with me.." Can you see how ACTING AS IF EVERYTHING IS JUST FINE, and handling it in that fashion, MAY have reduced pressure?
Quote: On impulse I asked what he did last night. He says he and his friend Sammy hung out...(I wonder if thats all they did?)
The WINNING Cindy of course doesn't ask her H what he did last night, unless he volunterers to tell her. If anything, SHE tells HIM what SHE did last night, and acts excited about it, that has far more benefit, than vise versa. Asking your H about his whereabouts, allthough perfectly innocent, is PRESSURE. Especially when he's standoffish to begin with.
Sometimes Cindy, its not what you do as much as making sure you don't do something to set you back. Be happy with things and accept them just as they are, realizing your H is capable of being grumpy and standoffish, just like he was capable of being as CONSIDERATE as he was last weekend.
Let me ask you this, when your H was really being NICE last weekend and doing things the way you liked, did you at any point "ask how he was cause he looked out of sorts?". My guess is you didn't, SO, just because he's moody, don't do it now either. Play both moods equally..and stick to what works, NO PRESSURE.
Quote: Hold your steady course and try your best not to let any of his particular moods change what you're doing, and where you eventually want to be.
Yes, JJ is right, that is EXACTLY the way you should handle things.
