Time is on our side

[RosaLinda]

H was playing this on the piano yesterday, and I thought what a great song it is for DBing. Time IS on our side, and our hearts are open. Of course I don't agree that the OW are better than us, our Hs have affaired WAY down!

It don't matter to me 
If you take up with 
Someone who's better than me 
'Cause your happiness is all I want 
For you to find 
Peace ... your peace of mind 

A lot of people have an ego hang-up 
'Cause they want to be the only one 
How many came before it really doesn't matter 
Just as long as you're the last 
Everybody's moving on and try to find out 
What's been missing in the past 

And it don't matter to me 
If your searching brings you back together with me 
'Cause there'll always be 
An empty room waiting for you 
An open heart waiting for you 
Time is on my side
.............. "It Don't Matter to Me" Bread

We often sing together in the evenings, while he plays the piano (which he is no longer threatening to sell) or somtimes I play my flute. Not a really exciting couple I wasn't emotionally hardy enough to sing this one with him though, and found it a strange choice.

H loves music, and one of the things he LOVED LOVED LOVED about the Russian Tramp is that they amazingly had the exact same taste in music. It was one of his biggest signs that they were soul mates. But he was so disappointed when he returned from their first conjugal visit, when she came to NY last March for 2 weeks of boinking to aid in her Divorce-Your-Wife campaign. He said he brought a couple of his favorite songbooks, but she did not know ANY of the songs. I hope she's boned up on any other subjects she's lied about for conjugal visit #2. Starting tomorrow. 

Thanks to all of you, rH, NLT, uR, Nero, Portia and everyone , for your good wishes for my surgery tomorrow, and encouraging words to be strong and show H that the beautiful woman he'll be missing won't be missing him Well I won't let him know anyway!! 

I was think about you and your mom last night Nero. My MIL called to find out what time she has to pick me up today (it's Wed mom) AND my dad called to see how my surgery had gone  (it's Wed dad)...sigh. It's hard when you can see your parents failing a bit. But I'm blessed to still have them, both in their 80's. 

From my last thread ( Blowing in the wind):

"Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass,
it's about learning how to dance in the rain"

rH "The way I figure it, is if your M doesn't survive, you will be completely mature as an individual (dancing in the rain and laughing). But certainly to add to that the maturity as a couple along with the richness of shared history....I can't say how enough how satisfying that is! (Again with the feeling of guilt and hesitancy.....)"

Thanks rH. Like uR and I told you, your happiness gives the rest of us hope! Thanks for your honesty in admitting that you came to this forum to save your M, not to become a better person, but that both have happened along the way. That is the reason we are all here, and my hope for us all is that we all are growing. 

uR "And there is always hope. And to be able to give that to people is very powerful. Coming from someone as loving and open as you makes it so sweet."

we all love you and wish the best for you rH! Dancing in the rain is a great GAL, and time is on our side!