GTO, I admire your strength to set the boundaries and not willing to live together without a committed R. I agree with others, your H is testing the waters. I get an impression that he is not ready to give up his family. Your boys should come first in all of this.
It seems to me that the cute guy is kind of a security blanket for you right now, if you know what I mean. Maybe you need to stop the contact for some time, so you could process your emotions.
It is great that you have a new job. Good luck in your second week.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
