GTO, you're making good progress by better defining what's next with the neighbor.
Your H? Maybe he says he just wants the family together bc he doesn't want to give you hope of R, but he might've given this some thought. He might want to see how he feels and then decide whether he wants to stay w you. We don't really know what's going on in his head, but this is a possibility.
I would focus on deciding whether you want to save the M or not, and in the meantime, being kind to your H while explaining that you two still need to be apart until you've both figured out what you want.
You're dealing with hurt and anger, and all the other feelings that come from an A. It's not easy...I know it firsthand. ((((((((((()))))))))))))
