Hoping for help and support.

[littleGTO]

CRPL-
Just wanted to piggy-back on what Cadet said. Do NOT move out of the house! Give her the time and space she needs. Do not press any R talks right now.

Agree that the 5LL (book) is very insightful. That might help you to determine what things you have/have not been doing that really "speak" to her.

I know your shock about your couplehood being safe from whatever your friends were going through. I thought my H and I were the safest bet among all of friends, and at one point so did he. People are SHOCKED we are separated now. But, yet it happened.

Try to determine what are the things she was not happy with in your R and do some immediate 180s on these things. You cannot control her but she will react differently to YOU over time if she sees changes that are positive.

Try to remain positive and upbeat as much as possible when you around her.

Good luck.