This is your week with your daughter. It is your choice how to spend it. Making a gift of it will not magically repair the relationship. Set a boundary here.
Hhmm I think you are very perceptive, part of my vacillation on this subject is what if's. If I say no will she hate me if I say yes I feel like I'm being used. However we are divorced and in the future I may want to take D somewhere on her time so... time to detach and look at what's good for me and my D.
Originally Posted By: JustStunned
As you assert more control over you and your life, making choices you wish to make, instead of responding to your X’s or requirements of the court you’ll find a bit more peace and heal a bit more. Chart your course in a positive manner, for you and your happiness. Keep your actions honorable so you can look in the mirror without shame.
That's why I came here to vent and look for someone to be a little blunt or honest about my actions or thoughts. I have not responded to her request yet as I want to be in a place where emotion does not rule the day.
Originally Posted By: labug
Hey sg, you are moving towards both detachment and forgiveness. It's not a straight line. Your black and white are showing.
This does not feel like progress lol. Man I should have stayed at a Holiday Inn Express last night... I'd have all the answers haha. Two steps forward and one back. I thought I was further down the road than this. the good thing is I feel myself getting back to an even keel much quicker than before.
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It's OK to be angry, and you realize it now before you speak. Good progress
I am trying to be different I guess if I can not be a jerk to my X than I can handle just about most other people lol.
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About your D, that's a tough one. What are you thinking when you look at it objectively?
Okay labug, expect me to be an adult why don't you
I think my D would love to go to Key West. The fact me and my X can't seem to be able to make a marriage work is not a reason for me to with hold an opportunity for her to have an adventure. At some point in the future I may want to take my D somewhere on her time and I would want to be able to do that.
I am going to sit on this a day or two and decide if I want to do something on fall break or not. I am really saving my money for a trip to NYC around Christmas for a shopping trip with her and my son. The answer most likely will be yes.
Thanks JS and bug...
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
