Blowing in the wind....

[reachingHigher]

If you are fortunate enough to reunite with your spouse, that enriches your life, it doesnt define it.

This is a really good thought.

I feel hesitant and guilty sometimes saying how great reconnection with my H has been b/c so many on here are looking at not reconnecting and that may yet happen in my future, I hope not...but I don't know for sure.

It just seems like, if H and I were successful in reuniting our M, then I should say how wonderful it is! And that is why I joined this forum truly -- not to become a better "me" but to save our M. That's why I paid money to talk to Chuck --to try to save our M.

But not expecting to, I have learned so much along the way. And if H dies before me, one day I will be alone...and if I'm not okay being "me" then it will be a doubly sad day.

I have learned a double bonus here as well. Not just saving the M, as has happened in my sitch, but learning to be a person NOT defined by the M as well as being a person IN the M. It is truly much better than what we had pre-MLC.

I like your quote RL "completely mature both as individuals and as a couple".

The way I figure it, is if your M doesn't survive, you will be completely mature as an individual (dancing in the rain and laughing). But certainly to add to that the maturity as a couple along with the richness of shared history....I can't say how enough how satisfying that is! (Again with the feeling of guilt and hesitancy.....)