"It is this "come closer, no go away" kind of feeling my w seems to be projecting. It makes it very difficult to detach."
Why? Detachment has nothing to do with her. It's all you
Maybe i am not totally understanding what detachment is, but when i have to respond or react to my wife's actions I find it difficult to not be emotionally involved. When w asks me to have drinks, what do I do? Am I available for her or not. How do I act? What about when she reaches out to me when she is feeling down. What do I do then?
Me-45 W-44 T-7 years M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated) Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)
