Separated, D filed, possible emotional affair

[MrBond]

It's simple. Go slow. What 'actions' has SHE said she would do to try to set things right? Has she recommended C or did you bring it up?

She has to be the one to initiate. Establish a timeline as to when you will be going to C, having dates, etc.

There are other resources also like Project Happily Ever After and Joe Beam, and of course, DB counseling. Look them up but let her be the one to arrange these things. If she doesn't fulfill what she promises, then you walk.