Bea - I appreciate the recommendation. I will look at that book. There is something comforting about a book sometimes and that is what I found with Anderson's book as there was an example used in her book of a woman in a long distance relationship who was devastated when it ended. That single example made me validated. Even at the very beginning I had many people tell me that at least I did not live with him for the past little while and that should make things easier. Which only made me feel more nuts.
Linda, we all have bad days and bad weeks. No need to ever apologize. We are hear to support you as best we can, no judgments.
As Jaye pointed out, some of us here are actually very private people. For me, the reason I have felt at home here is not necessarily because it is anonymous but because here is a place where I felt safe. People in real life tend to slap a label on you and expect you to act in certain ways. In my real life, I am expected to be strong and not expected to need to be taken care of myself. It isn't that people are unkind and uncaring. I just do not tend to be the squeaky wheel. This is a safe environment that gently guides you and helps pick you up when you need it. There are lots of other forums etc. that we could have chosen to go to. Here is where I fit in the best - I do not want to save my relationship at all costs but recognize that letting go is a process. I hope you feel as safe here as we do.
And MizJ, I am so very glad you found yourself here. You were one of my first "friends" here and I have valued your opinions and friendship since. Especially one who likes me - geek and all. I like to think that it is us geeks who lead the most interesting lives
Nero, you are too funny! Aren't family dynamics fantastic? Really amusing, if you let yourself look at it that way. Now there is something we need an escape hatch for!
So, I will open a new thread since it looks like I am over and made sure I catch up with everyone, too.
