Well, when I read your MC meeting results, I can't say that I'm surprised at anything you said. It doesn't surprise me that your H is still on the fence, it doesn't surprise me that he's still a little gunshy, he's still getting used to the NEW YOU. It sounds as though he didn't explode when you told him you had dismissed the D. I'd rather him be upset about a couple of old drills than you pulling the D, wouldn't you?? The BOTTOM LINE is that you told him you dismissed the D, and he seemed OK with that. Thats STEP ONE. Now you just get right back on the horse and keep doing what we've gone over time and time again, because these last few weeks you have seen positive changes in him, you have to admit that. He's returning your calls, being responsible with the kids, inviting you to come over, initiating affection, talking about vacations, these are all POSITIVES, and they are POSITIVES because you are doing what works and that one more time is:
BE and ACT HAPPY
THINGS ARE OK JUST AS THEY ARE
NO PRESSURE OR PURSUING
KEEP BEHAVING LIKE YOU ARE, KEEP TREATING HIM AS YOU HAVE BEEN.
BE CONFIDENT, STRONG, NICE, SEXY, ETC
NO R OR D TALK UNLESS HE BRINGS IT UP.
STAY BUSY AND ACTIVE WHILE YOU'RE APART.
NO OBSESSING WITH WHAT HE'S GONNA DO, WORRY ABOUT WHAT YOU DO...
It would appear as though he just needs to make sure in his own mind that the changes you are making will be CONSISTENT, so that he can feel comfortable RECOMMITTING if thats what he decides..
Thing continue to look up for you Cindy. Remember, many of us would like to be in your shoes, in terms of the progress you're making here the last few weeks. Are you out of the woods yet?, no of course not, but thats ok, you're making progress..
