Brian,

Glad to get your perspective here and that you see it as positive ! I'm so hung up I guess on how it was not what I was expecting....but that is what I get for EXPECTING, huh?!

I agree...I'll let him think about what was said for a couple of days.

I'm worried now about finances....hopefully by the weekend I can talk to h about them and see if he will continue to help us.

During the session the MC asked why I filed in the first place, why did I think I was doing it for the kids. I said I was afraid h would become a dead beat dad. MC said wow that is not very complimentary about h and h said yeah that's hurtful that she would think that about me (gee must have been because he didn't give us any support the first month after he moved out...I had to take it from our joint account! I didn't say that though.). So the MC said well you are not a dead beat dad now are you? H said no! Well I hope that part of the session got into his head and he understands that he still needs to support his kids. So hopefully asking for money won't be a big deal like it was before.

H sounds so depressed like he doesn't like the fact that the decision is now really his...no court date to just let it happen now! I talked to him this morning about getting our son's glasses fixed and he didn't sound too chipper kind of like surprised. Anyway he said he plans to call me after our older son's hand surgery...he let me know about the glasses. At least he's stepping up to the plate and taking care of the boys more. I'm going to rely more heavily on him for that now. It is easier for him to do anyway since he's not working the first 2 days of the week. The boys can spend the night and he can take them to the doctors or to get clothes or whatever.

I wonder what all this will mean for our Florida trip. I wonder if that is still on? Ok, ok, one day at a time!

Cindy