The MC is solution based. MC used this time to give us info on d, really lay it on the line with h how d should not be an option but if it is it will be his option...I am no longer for d but will take a stand for the m. This session was only for that...h has to think on it and decide if he wants to continue mc.
If we should meet again then we will discuss goals individually with mc. MC wants goals and expectations for each of us, the other spouse and the mc then we will develop a plan on how to achieve our goals.
H has to decide to come back though is the deal. Come back willing to continue working on the m.
Last week he did say he was willing to keep trying. This week he is back to not knowing if he wants to keep trying.
After this session, h has lots to think about I suspect. I'll just back off and give him some time.
I think it will help the situation a lot now that the d is no longer a threat. I'm just sad that my expression of remorse was not met with more loving open arms. He just said he forgives me but finds it hard to forget.
Does he not remember that I forgave him his ow and have NOT mentioned that???? since it happened in April...almost a year!!! Gosh what a double standard!
It's hard to hold back the anger at how all about him it continues to be.
I cry now with frustration at how unheard my anguish over the whole situation is really!!!! I hurt bad and dread just talking to him...it so awful when we have r talks. He's so sees me as a snake in the grass. How do I dispel this vision of his?
Cindy 
