Divorced-not done-But wondering ?

[JJAC2005]

Well, as far as I know, or have learned about the process so far….everything is pivotal on how well we continue to live without our spouses…and that includes everything that we need to do “just for ourselves”.
We can always remain hopeful that they notice and want to try again, with a new and improved us….because we didn’t want that other relationship either, we were as tired and frustrated about things (perhaps not exactly the same things) as they were, and we just didn’t know what else to do at the time.
Tragically you and I (as well as others in our same sit), were very unfortunate in our situations to have found the tools to repairing and recovering our marriages before our divorce, and saw the other person moving on w/o us….the good thing about it…and probably the best thing of all is that we learned and continue to learn…we learned so much about ourselves, about others, about relationships, about struggles and joys, and about the realities of how a loving marriage can be when you.

As for the Divorce Busting counseling/coaching helping me and my situation, I believe that its pretty tailored to the individual situation, however the same basic principles are always followed…and that is developing a stronger, better more confident and consistent version of yourself.
I don not have any consistent contact…and it dropped off the grid completely since mid June….so basically I haven’t spoken/emailed/or text to or from my ex in over 6 weeks.
I don’t know what she may have been thinking over the past few significant dates in Aug….I can only hope that she had some sort of positive memory pop up when our anniversary came…or perhaps a tinge of sadness at the divorce date being a full year now.
I will continue to keep the path clear for that return home, if that is where she find herself wanting to be down the road…I will also continue to periodically ask about seeing the kids or doing a lunch or some other sort of get together activity. I know that the boy cannot wait for the end of summer to have our restrictions lifted so we can see each other.

As to DB coaching for you…I am sure that they would be able to give you a much more positive outlook on what you can try…at the very least, they will be able to help you assess what you need to do for yourself….they are very wise on these matters….and also very compassionate.

I want to thank you for your patience…I know you may have been looking for a reply a lot sooner than this….I didn’t forget, I was just attending to a few other things and wanted to sit and write after I had had time to get back to you w/o distractions.
Also thank you for the compliments on how well I am doing…it means more than you know, especially when I don’t notice it as much as others do….I will admit I still have some very weak moments on missing my wife and family, and from what I can tell, its still pretty normal. I try to use those moments as motivation and continue to get back on my way to a better life for all of us!