Me- LBS or WAS?

[labug]

labug- H has mentioned the over-involvement in activities for 2 years now...just about the beginning of his MLC. But, yes, he and I have always disagreed about the number of activities the boys are in. So, that has caused some resentment on his part (as we allowed them to get involved to my liking,not his).

But, everyone we know has the same kind of lifestyle--not to say that it is right or wrong. It just IS. That's part of the reason the "we" of our marriage got lost. Married was always secondary to family.

So what does this mean?

Not many things just "are" they are what they are because we make choices.

Why do you say MLC? Maybe he's depressed. I think MLC is way overused but that's another story. I'm not excusing the affair at all but did you and he ever have a serious conversation about what the issues he raised? Talk a about compromises? Work as a team?

This rings a bell for me because my H brought up issues, I paid them lip service, then went about my merry way until he was tired of his needs being ignored and said "eff it, I'm gone!"

And he was. And it hurt a lot of people, especially my sons. I have 50% of that squarely on my shoulders.

We can't go back and change things but we can be different from this day forward.

Just to clarify, I'm not saying I think you should stay with your marriage, I don't know that but would like to see you figure out you, it's the best gift you can ever give yourself.