My W does the same thing with regards to doing what she wants. She demanded I marry her when we were 23 and now she demands a quick divorce and has been saying whatever she wants about me to others to justify what she is doing (telling people she is afraid I will hurt her, etc). She even stated to me at several points that she "doesn't want to compromise" in our relationship and she "wants what she wants". She would also accuse me of being too sensitive if she said rude or disrespectful things to me. I never got the sense she felt bad about her behavior, just bad that she got caught and I was upset.
She has moments where she knows her behavior is wrong. I think overall it is a character flaw and I don't know if it is one she can grow out of. I decided in my situation she will leave until she wants to come back. At that point I would want her to really prove her desire to change and I would not rush back into anything.
T 10 years, M 4 years, both 28 years old 7/3/2013 - W wanted D, we attempted to reconcile 7/20/2013 - discovered W's EA, attempted to reconcile 8/24/2013 - W told me she wanted D, filed papers
