One giant leap forward! - Part 5

[sandi2]

Oh well, she will balk at anything that she has not had to do.

T, your feelings of jealousy of OM is understandable.......to a point. But it seems to dig up these old inferiority emotions that you missed out b/c you didn't score with several women when you were single. I won't pretend to understand it or how your W & another man causes you to be jealous of a life you feel you missed. But if you don't get it worked out, it could be the makings of a MLC some day. Wouldn't that be something, to finally get the R you've always wanted....and then you be thrown into MLC?

Based on the things you said after OM1 and now with OM2, I have to wonder if you feel you have no identity apart from your W/MR. When another man comes on the scene, it seems to cause you to want to go back in your 20's to find yourself.



I'd like to comment on the EA/PA subject. From the posts I have read from LBH'S over the years, many worry more about a PA and don't take an EA seriously enough.

An EA, for a woman, is an affair of the mind & heart. It involves her feelings, emotions,, dreams and fantasies. It becomes a part of her b/c she carries it around with her at any place at anytime. She can wear a mask while she dreams of OM and what life with him would be like. It can become so intense that it consumes her. An EA can be very addictive, and therefore, it takes a long time to overcome the hold.

Men don't want another man to be physically intimate with his W b/c.......well, her body was for him, just as his body was for her, and nobody else should touch the places they touched each other. Am I close?

One thing that makes M a sacred institution is when the couple's heart and body is given exclusively to each other. Not in a controlling or dependent way, but freely and lovingly. So if one of them breaks that covenant by allowing a third party in, it disrupts that special bond.

I'm not going anywhere particularly here. Just sharing some thoughts.