W told me a couple days ago she had been hanging with a bad crowd, and making some stupid choices. Our mutual friend had invited us to a bonfire, and I suggested she come as well - they are fantastic friends, and love her dearly, and she's pretty much ignored them.
So she told me she was going to come. I pretty much flat out asked her what she expected so it wouldn't be awkward for everyone, and she just said, "Come talk to me".
We got there, and it was sure enough awkward! I just had a good time, and laughed a lot, and W was inside sitting on a bench seat, and she called me over to show me a video on her phone. She leaned way over with her body all pushed up against me to watch it. Not gonna lie, it was nice! Later on she was sitting, and I was standing by her, and she patted the seat by her, and said, "You can sit down.." I kept our four kids tonight, and it was great, lots of snuggling!
However, last night, I realized what I hadn't been able to see about W up to this point, and it's serious character flaw. She has generally good intentions, but if there is something she wants to do, she's going to do it. Regardless of who she hurts, who it impacts, repercussions; she'll do it, and not feel a bit bad about it later. She'll always have some justification; and in her mind, she is completely right, and has no reason to feel bad. If I'm hurt by it, well, I shouldn't be such a baby. This isn't just a bad habit, it's something that I don't know that can be fixed.
