WR, The next time he mentions picking things up from the home, request a list of the items. Be sure to photograph whatever he gets. Document that he has picked up his personal items. If you don't request a list, he will continue to come back and want more items.
Do not have any more conversations w/him about refinancing. Let your lawyer do his/her work. He's trying to aggravate you and push you into doing something you don't want. He can wait a few more weeks for news. He's a miserable individual and he didn't have to contact you over a holiday weekend, but that's the way they are about such things.
Be sure you photograph and document everything he takes from the home. Documentation is very important when you are dealing w/angry spouses who want the world.
I hope you are feeling better soon. The stress will send you into a tailspin and cause your health issues to flare up even more so. Try to step back just a bit...you are doing great and everything will come together soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
