I a so sorry about your mom GM - we need to be able to grieve in peace.
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I just want out of the way so I can no longer be the blame for all that is wrong with his life.
Ummmmmm one set of rules in life for normal people, a different set for MLCers. You will probably always be to blame. I sometimes think the nicer and kinder we were to our spouses pre MLC the worse they treat us now, to justify their actions to themselves.
It is all about covering up guilt and shame, projecting everything onto us so they do not have to deal with it.
Nearly 8 years down the line my xh is still insisting he never ever loved me, that he was right to leave me, and that I am making it up about how painful it was. I set the boys against him etc etc. Same old, same old. This time around I am bored.
It is great when the hurt goes away
Focus on yourself and your family. You have enough on your plate without this, and I would simply tell your xh this without anger. If we show emotion in response I believe they latch on to it as a hook.
