That's a good idea - thanks - W suggested I ask myself "what would James Dean do in this situation? Do the same!" some years ago.
A few positive developments here: I went upstairs and read in the porch (adjacent to master bedroom) again, this time with no perceived hostility, and very differently, W came in to ask me what I thought of various Christmas presents while I was shaving and topless. As we've not been in the same room much at all while not fully clothed over these last years, this was a definite change and I thought, sexually charged (hope W thought the same!)
Other developments: I will invite a local divorced guy I know and like out to lunch, casually, not to talk anything serious. Will also look into group activities here, with the aim of becoming more social (even though I leave for the US in two weeks, for a month again). Will send notes to other EE folks that I liked. My closest EE person suggested that I review the notes from my DB coaching session and talk to my IC about help implementing them.
W and I are alone evenings the next two days, with S back at college and D on a school field trip. W is doing 5:2 diet, fasting today.
From a raining cats and dogs Sweden -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
