Brobafet, hang in there bud do what you need to do not what everyone else tells you to do. If you feel like not dating and just maintaining then so be it.
The first contact I have had with my X in many months and nope... I am not detached and I thought I was moving toward forgiveness. Uugghh, I really do not like being angry but unfortunately that is where I am...
The long and short of it is she wants our D on my week (my D's fall break from school) because she wants to go see her brother in Key West. A couple of things stand out. 1. She never wanted to go to Key West to see her brother because she thinks (or at least thought) he is a jerk and swore she would never go to Key West. 2. I gave her a large sum of money in the divorce settlement and I see her blowing it. 3. I have not made plans but that is my week to have her and I am being selfish jerk because I want her. She set up this D and wanted this and my time is my time, I know selfish jerk right...
I am not sure what I am trying to say here. I guess I am still hurt that she actually filed and followed through with the divorce. I guess part of me wants to hurt her back by saying hell no, thats my week welcome to our divorced world... Part of me wants to be nice and let my daughter and her mother have their time. I am confused and hurting and I don't know why... I have not cried like this in months. I know I must sound horrible, but this is how I feel right now. I just don't understand why I feel this way.
I am trying to work my way through my emotions before I answer back. I know what the right thing to do is yet I am finding it hard to do it.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
