You are very much NOT detached and for some reason are letting him control who you tell about your sitch and how the story is framed.
Detach and don't let him control your actions or emotions. My guess is he is doing this because you fear rocking the boat and messing up your "last chance." Don't fear that - he's just using that to manipulate you. In this story he fears coming across as a jerk probably because he's acting like one. Shielding him from the consequences of his own actions is doing neither him nor your "last chance" of reconciliation any good.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
