Is there's anything left of everything we had...

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I just wish I had the money to do more with S13 or more options on free stuff nearby. At least with school back next week he'll have his friends around him again. I just have to make sure I speak to his teachers and give them the heads up on the sitch just in case there's any acting out or in case he starts becoming miserable in school.

Enjoy your weekend.

[TryingToDo180]

hope you enjoy your weekend as well You don't need money to have a good time with your kids, you can give them lots of your own time I can give you some examples if you want, but I'm sure you don't need them I wish I had some more money as well, we could do a lot more things together. Today all it's going to cost me is the bus fare and a donation for the breakfast.
Have you looked to see what's on offer at the Churches? sometimes they offer free or cheap activities and you don't have to go to that church to take part in them Just a thought

[kelela]

I know what you mean I wish I had the money too. I try to play games with them are just go for a car ride. I wonder if I should do that too letting my sons teachers know about my situation? The only thing is my 13 year old is in middle school and he has different teachers each hour so I my have to write a note to the Secretary and maybe she could let his teachers know what's going on. I'm glad my boys are in school now so they can be around their friends that way they can have some fun time with mom and dad.

[TryingToDo180]

K, good idea about telling the school secretary I would also tell your son's form teacher as well, that's if it is the same over there as it is over here. I'm going to let my son's tutor know on Monday, I'm popping over to see her in my lunch break. I'll probably only get half an hour lunch on monday, lol. Hopefully I'll get my son sorted out with activities soon

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Similar set up - he has a "home room" teacher, and then a different teacher for each of the subjects. I'll talk to the home room teacher and maybe the school guidance counsellor as that's who he'd be sent to for support if he needed it.

Back to school Tuesday, then next week his cadet unit starts up again. I'll be talking to his C.O. as well so that she knows the sitch.

He doesn't seem too bothered but once he's back around school and cadet friends that might change. He's had the summer to get used to his dad not living with us. It's more likely to be the change in routine that might get to him.

[TryingToDo180]

I'm in a similar position as my son goes back to college and his activities start up again next week. It's different for me thought because H left in the Easter hols and so he's already done a term without H being in. Don't worry, kids are very adaptable and resilient It won't take them long to get back into the routine

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I know I shouldn't worry about my son. He's been really mature about this whole thing. We ran into H and OW a few weeks ago and my son asked about who the blonde was with his dad. When I said I didn't know he eventually seemed to forget the whole thing. Now if he was to ask me directly if his dad has a GF then I won't lie, but in the meantime I'm just letting it go and I'm not volunteering the information.

Had an interesting convo with H's beer buddy earlier today. I had offered to drive his D11 to school in the mornings this year as she starts at the same school as my son, and my son will be walking her home afterwards and we were making the final arrangements. Anyway, beer buddy wanted to know if H had grown up yet. Strange comment coming from someone who recently divorced his wife, and has been having a PA for over two years. The difference in sitches is that he didn't want to save his marriage - there are some serious underlying issues there and I know the cops have been called by him over her actions - but he really thinks my H is being very stupid for walking away from our M. My response was simply that I hadn't really talked to H in a few weeks so I don't know what's going on in his head or his life. Beer buddy said that he still doesn't know what H sees in OW. I just shrugged and said "his choice".

[TryingToDo180]

Yes that was an interesting response from "beer buddy", especially given his sitch! Sound though that he had a marriage from h3ll though.
I think that about my H that he needs to grow up. When he gets annoyed with me for some reason, I tell everyone that he's throwing his toys out of his pram, lol.
Hope the School term starts ok and you get a well deserved rest

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Had a bit of a rough night last night. Kept waking up with songs going through my head and each song was bringing up memories of good times with H. Managed to get some sleep but probably not enough. And no contact with H since Friday when he texted to remind that a bill needed to be paid. I simply replied "it's already done".

A little bit emotional today because I know where H is and who he's with - he felt the need to tell me earlier in the week because he didn't want S13 and I going the same place. I know I shouldn't be and I've tried really hard not to show S13 those feelings.

Beer buddy and many of H's other long time friends are being cut off along with S13 and me. His new friends have become more important, maybe because they don't know him as he used to be. His long time friends are seeing the changes in him and I know that several have voiced their disapproval of his new behaviour. They all think he's acting like an idiot and they can't believe what he's doing. Oh well, it's his choice and it could cost him some friends because they may not be there if he ever comes "back to his senses" as they have been saying.

In spite of how I was feeling with regard to H, I had an enjoyable day with S13 today in spite of those feelings, loads of walking and some good pictures to remind us both of the day. And I re-ordered DR from the library as I need to read it again.

[TryingToDo180]

Had a bit of a rough night last night. Kept waking up with songs going through my head and each song was bringing up memories of good times with H. Managed to get some sleep but probably not enough. And no contact with H since Friday when he texted to remind that a bill needed to be paid. I simply replied "it's already done".

I know the feeling about not being able to get some sleep. Didn't you comment on Kelela's post about things to do when you can't sleep? lol. Just get up and don't bother trying to get to sleep, but on some soothing music like spa music which you can find on youtube. Eventually you'll be about to go back to bed and go back to sleep

A little bit emotional today because I know where H is and who he's with - he felt the need to tell me earlier in the week because he didn't want S13 and I going the same place. I know I shouldn't be and I've tried really hard not to show S13 those feelings.

I never know where my H is. I tried to get him to tell me this week when he's free so he can help me with my son when he's not at college. He won't commit or tell me anything! Don't worry about showing S13 your feelings, he'll understand

Beer buddy and many of H's other long time friends are being cut off along with S13 and me. His new friends have become more important, maybe because they don't know him as he used to be. His long time friends are seeing the changes in him and I know that several have voiced their disapproval of his new behaviour. They all think he's acting like an idiot and they can't believe what he's doing. Oh well, it's his choice and it could cost him some friends because they may not be there if he ever comes "back to his senses" as they have been saying.

I've had a few people say how my H has changed and is like a jekyll and hyde character. Not because I hinted at this, this was their opinion anyway!

In spite of how I was feeling with regard to H, I had an enjoyable day with S13 today in spite of those feelings, loads of walking and some good pictures to remind us both of the day. And I re-ordered DR from the library as I need to read it again.

That's good Keep up the good work and take care