Well H called this am to ask "Well are you going to Florida with us during Spring Break?"
I played it off by saying oh are you still planning on going there? he said yes unless my dad says otherwise we are going.
H made no mention of the pending divorce hearing! I guess we'll still be married then...cause he wouldnt' want to introduce me to his dad as his ex wife right? (I've never met the man and this is his dad he's only just met this past year after 35 years!)
Wow, H just called to invite me over tonight! I'm on the right track.
Had my mc appt. He encouraged me to do the right thing not the emotional thing. He said I have only filed for d in response to my emotional self and that it was not the right thing to do. He said I should dismiss d and not worry about h's emotions in this. That would be my boundary...dismissing the d cause it is the right thing to do, not in response to my or h's feelings.
Wow, the mc is so clever. It is hard to divorce the emotion in all this though...and that is my problem. I respond quickly with emotion and rarely stop to think out my course of action.
So the MC said do the right thing, dismiss the d, don't let this be on your conscience, give h the responsibility of carrying out the d....if that is what he wants.
I feel so happy today! My h is responding to my growing up emotionally and the decision about what the right thing to do here is made.
You sound as HAPPY, CONFIDENT, & IN CONTROL as you have in some time. That of course is what the WINNING Cindy does, and then of course your R takes a turn for the better because you ACT in a manner that your WA can't help but notice. Not to mention you've freed him from the pressure he was once under, that helps as well.
If dismissing the D relieves more pressure "clouds" in your mind then do it. Your MC is right, if you pulling the D without telling him, sets him off, oh well....he can file if he wants. This way you send a message that you're comfortable with yourself enough to bring an end to something you initially filed.
Just continue to make the choices that give you the best chance to keep the momentum in your favor, thats good strategy..and it makes YOU FEEL GOOD too.
Its nice to see good things happening in your sitch.
As for tonight just be that bright, cheery, sexy, "everything is just great" you and enjoy your time with him.
Last night's visit with h was wonderful. He made me happy and I feel loved.
We spent time together watching TV, laughing at the antics on the bachelorette show, talking about nothing. We got ready for bed and watched the Simpsons and laughed some more.
We ML and it was so nice! He hugged me close afterwards and we snuggled off and on all night. He held my hand when I rolled too far away .
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but patience.