My W needs to work on her communication skills! Apparently when she's saying she's kissed someone, what she meant was she was at a party, got blind drunk and kissed a guy, and then her friends made her leave. That's a whole different story than making out with someone you had an emotional connection with. She also said she will never contact him again, and he tried to Facebook friend her and she blocked him. She said if she saw him now on the street, she'd turn and walk away. But most importantly, she was honest about it, and she apologized for hurting me.
She actually ended up bringing up a lot of R talk - good lord, this rollercoaster! She said that she couldn't commit with me because she was afraid I'd hold all these mistakes over her head, so we should just go get the dissolution. I told her that wasn't true - I'm upset right now, but I'm not incapable of forgiveness.
Then she said she couldn't commit to me because I don't love her unconditionally. So I just suggested we take a break because this is a lot of crap that has been unloaded. She is self-aware in that she knows she's made pretty bad choices, she still believes divorce is wrong, but she's so tormented.
It's such a catch-22; I don't believe you love me, but on the other hand, I won't LET you love me.
@T1000 - I slept on it; I actually come on here and vent, and it takes some of the steam out!
@lovethehub - my (Christian) friend told me that phrase refuses to grant any grace to someone who has made a mistake. A blind drunk kissing session is not a deal breaker for me. W admitted she had been making poor choices in friends, and the drinking, and said she was "really messed up right now". I appreciate your perspective, and I was wrong to say that.
