Sunday morning and my H calls to tell me he should be home by noon today. The last time he was here, we had a brief argument. I do not want that to happen again, so I need help if we get into a discussion on our marriage.
However, I believe his depression is the cause for him wanting a divorce. Before you say it, I am not making excuses. When we first met up until our marriage had problems 5 years ago, my Husband was happy, we spent time with each other's family and friends, we traveled extensively, we were avid runners and we both enjoyed spending time together cooking. All of this has stopped (except for a brief family trip we just took in July). He is home all of the TIME, he sits on the couch and watches TV or playing video games!! He is 51 years old!! He had the hair on his chest removed 3 years ago. He has gained weight (25 lbs) because he is just a couch potato. I not saying this to be mean, but he is depressed. And I want to help him. When he tells me about what is going on with his job, it seems that he is covering up what is going on there. 2 year ago as a part of his performance review, he was told he was "at the bottom of the barrel" of all the managers. He has been under a lot of pressure this year at work.
He is very hurt by this. But he is also prideful, so I know there will never be a way (or at least I think) for him to possibly see that he truly is depressed.
He is drinking more than usual. He even accused me of having an affair. I told him I was not and this is true. He feels inadequate and I don't know how to help him. He cries at movies now when in the past, he showed no empathy. But still yet, he thinks something or someone out there will make him happy. He is realizing that it is the person or spouse that makes you happy. IT'S YOU!!!
Our MC from last year was really about to make a breakthrough with my H on this, but he kept pushing back. I knew we shouldn't have stopped seeing her. What to do?
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
