Separated, D filed, possible emotional affair

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That now makes her a liar and a cheater. I realize that "making out" probably seems paltry to you all who have endured one or more affairs, but the old saying goes, "Once a cheater, always a cheater."

First of all, I find this saying to be a bunch of bs. Yes, there are what I have termed "serial cheaters" who will cheat regardless of who they are with and how good/bad things are. However, many people cheat because they are so unhappy and they don't have the skills to make a better choice in that moment. For me, personally, I never cheated prior to my A in this M and I would never cheat again, regardless of the situation. I have learned a lot about myself and I have grown and I know I would handle the same situation a lot differently in the future.

Second of all, why is it that you can change and you want your W to recognize this, but if she's a liar and a cheater she couldn't possibly change?

I am not saying that her kissing someone else can't be your deal breaker, I am just saying don't say it is because she would be this person forever and couldn't change. Decide if it is your deal breaker, and if it is, okay. If it isn't, there is no reason to believe she couldn't change if you can change.