This is such a helpful thread. I agree, from my own experience, with everything you say about refinding yourself, and about the healing process
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What I did need was lots of time to rest, care for myself, be alone, read and exercise. I had to find my own way.
This seems like a very good way - I still find tht the fitter and more rested I am the better I deal with all the stuff, that I am afraid goes on happening.
As Snodderly has said, and I have reluctantly come to see (I never doubted her!) They cannot leave us alone.
AJM thinks there is some link with us for their own closure, but they are not aware of it.
I believe that emotional intelligence is an imporant key to all of this. We develop it more and more - knowing and understanding ourselves and others, where they are coming from.
The MLCer seems to have little or no EI, and once we realise that and have no expectation that they will develop or display it, then it becomes clearer how to deal with them.
