I've been replying/posting to you in my previous posts, but I don't know if I'm doing this right. I'm having trouble locating responses. Do I just look at "my posts" and go to my most recent post to look for responses? Do I stay on that thread only?
Anyway, earlier this week, my W asked what my toughts were about her going out on Saturday night to a jewelry party. I was bothered because I knew it was just a cover to meet up with OM.
I mentioned that she's been gone every night for two years working and now that she started a new job with a normal 8:00-5:00 Mon-Fri schedule, it would be nice for us to spend some time together, especially on the holiday (Labor Day) weekend. That led to more discussion about how I always want her home.
I could tell she was getting bothered, so I said sure, go out Saturday night. We've got the long weekend.
Then she got an email from her mom reminding her that she forgot her Dad's birthday this week. That upset her even more.
So, we got the kids ready for bed and put them to sleep. W and I got ready as well and got into bed. I tried to talk to her about her Mom and forgetting her Dad''s birthday, but she was frustrated. So, I told her I'll leave her alone since I can see that she was upset.
I asked her to be home right after work the next day so she could get the kids from the sitter and I could run to the bank. She said she could go to the bank for me during her lunch hour, so she wouldn't need to rush home. She doesn't want to come home right after work, because she wants to meet up with OM on the way home.
I said that's all you've been doing the past two weeks is running around town doing errands, school shopping, getting new outfits for work etc. I said I can help with that kind of stuff so you're around more.
That's when she said: "well, you've been this "Father of the Year" and "Husband of the Year" for the past several months. I don't know what to make of that or what to do with that person."
I didn't respond. Then she said: " and if now you're going to say that you've been available or willing to help do that kind of stuff the past several years, that's just a false statement!"
I responded by saying I can understand why you would feel that way. You're right. But I'm going to keep doing the best I can and I don't see anything wrong with that.
She didn't respond and we went to sleep.
What do you think? That's the first she's commented about anything I've been doing or not doing since I started DBing on 7/5/13!
Vince B M=10 yrs T=13 yrs M45 / H 44 2 Boys 5 & 8 D Day: 7/16/13
