I think responsibility for filing and pushing the d should be assumed by the s that wants it!

I agree!!

But I'd like to get his input on the decision anyway.

"What if" you were to take some of the positives you listed earlier, and considered that to be some "input" on his decision?

I don't know, Cindy. There's something inside of me that's thinking that if you put him on the spot for this right now, you're not going to get the "reaction" from him that you want. I know that you want to actually "hear the words" from him right now, and how discouraging it is NOT to hear them. However, remember that this IS your H, and he often speaks a different language then you!!

I'm sure that there's some "legal" stuff to consider, so I'll leave it up to you to be on top of that end of it. Beyond that, though, take a look back on your goals you set on your last thread (1/21), and ask yourself "Is what I am about to do going to bring me closer to these goals, or drive me farther away from them?"

JJ

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