The "secret" is to become the best person you can become, which means you will be happier in the long run, no matter what your w does. Truly believing that you are going to be fine, regardless, gives a confidence that many find attractive.
It's a paradox in a way.
But I found that when I really let go of my m, turned it over to God, & just worked on ME, that is when my h began his own shift home. Not overnight, but there were unmistakable signs that he had noticed changes in me, which intrigued him.
That began our turn around. As for the piece of paper...I have 2 family members who divorced and later remarried their former spouses. So yes, it happens.
However, In both cases, a few years had passed, and each person had grown a lot individually. And yes, it was better the second time around.
I won't quibble with Bond about how much or what to beleive.
I just think you must KNOW that you will be alright, regardless of your wife's choices.
When I truly believed that, when i KNEW i was going to be happy again, regardless, and began making plans for my new life, an inner peace came to me.
I began looking forward to my new life (& freedom), and then....somehow it radiated from within. I mean it began to show on the outside..
Also, when we say to GAL, I mean a lot more than "maybe" accepting an invitation from your sister.
How passive can you get? Good grief.
This is not a dress rehearsal. This is your only life - and you are nearing the half way mark!
If your life were a book, who would you say is writing it?
Be the author of your book/life!
Make this chapter go as YOU design...make the book finish as you wish.
You are starting a new chapter today called, "TAKING CHARGE OF MY LIFE!"
Now GAL for real.
Surely there is a skill or hobby or language or cooking style you have wondered about...?
An instrument to play or study?
A sport to coach or play on...come on!!!
Think outside the box. Are you near water? Boats, fishing, swimming, canoeing, kayaking, tubing...something.
Mountains? Hiking, cross country skiing (cheaper than downhill), camping, etc.
None of these costs much (except the boating, but maybe you can join a group & share expenses, or fish successfully & defray some costs).
Meet new people, PLEASE....
Overcoming inertia is the hardest part. Once you are out there, you won't regret it.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
