better to love or be loved?

[willbwell]

trying to trust..(knowing I need to trust) in God's plan for me. know I deserve someone who will love and cherish me.
still so physically attracted to h. see him and miss the physical. Know he has behaved so badly.
saw my IC. talked about my fears, and other issues...jealousy, anger,
I do have a dilemma. on the one hand, I should do something different. I am always accommodating to h. I don't make demands. He sees the kids when it works for his schedule. IC says have h take kids for entire week and do all...carpool, hw, meals, laundry. Basically, what I do everyday. While it would be good for h to experience what I do and what D could look like not sure this is what I (or kids) would want.
ideas??