Taking A Stand; What's my Position?

[Mimi00]

The church I went to last week had an ad for a "Divorce Recovery" class in their weekly bulletin. Even though I'm not divorced yet, I signed up for it. It starts next Saturday and will be once a week, until November 23. No GAL this week, I thought I would get paid this week as I've been working 2 wks now, but I won't until next week, so money is very very very tight. Just hanging out w/ my dog for free for now lol.


There has been no contact w/ H since his call on 8/27

I've been a pro at keeping myself "together" when in contact w/ H since the BD; showing him I'm strong, sounding up beat, not initiating calling or texting unless really important, no pursuit at or R talks at all since the week of BD (end of June). I've been respectful, no snide remarks. I've been the total opposite of any "negative/bad" I was before, I haven't dropped the ball not once. We haven't had any arguments since before BD in April (don't know if that's a good or bad thing?).

There hasn't been much change since BD, that I can see, between us.

I think my no contact helps to put me out of his mind, which is maybe what is causing a delay on him filling out the dissolution paper work? (as of last week he said he still hasn't gotten around to it, but will soon start doing new research since I've moved to a different state since the BD he may need to get new paperwork. I did snoop today and saw that he's tried to contact his co-workers step-dad 3 times but hasn't been able to talk w/ him yet. I believe that's his "go to guy" for advice on how to leave me. This guy has been divorced & then married H's co-workers mom, they've been together for several years now....for whatever reason H is close to these people. I know I shouldn't snoop...I don't do it often ;)).


Any vets out there that can give a suggestion on what I should do during this 3rd month since BD? Should I change my techniques at this point, or continue to leave him alone as I've been doing?