I suggest getting the book "Not the story you think it is...a season of unlikely happiness" by Laura Munson ...get it from the library....it reminds me of your sitch and will give you strategy and strength for how to handle your husband when he comes back from his trip.

Be strong for your kids.

I'm sure some vets will drop in w advice soon.

All the best to you!

me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope